Last week I came to a realization. A clip from one of those tacky daytime courtroom shows popped up on my timeline. I wish I could find it. The judge was amazing. She said something to the effect of "Honey, when you're in your 20s, if something ain't benefiting you just give it up. Men? You don't like him? You don't have to compromise. Just fire him!" It's nothing new. It's the simple fact that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Why are you making compromises that will eventually make you tense or uncomfortable? Why are you squeezing yourself into places you won't fit? You don't have to. Whether you're doing that something for someone else or because you think it will help you achieve contentment, you have to stop doing things that don't make you truly, genuinely, infectiously happy.
My life changed when I realized I don't have to do anything I don't enjoy/want to do. Selfish, but that's your 20s.— Tati Chin (@tatichin) September 22, 2016
Here's the thing. Your time? Limited. Your resources? They're limited, too. The possibilities? Endless.
So why aren't you spending more time doing the things you want to do the way you want to do them? Sometimes it's because we aren't even aware of what we don't like! It's really easy to get stuck going through the motions. Going to work or class every day. Making the same dinner. Going on the same dates (or sitting on the same couch watching the same movie). Doing things that don't make us truly happy. Every few weeks I like to audit myself. Do I like what I'm doing? Am I having fun? Does this contribute to my overall happiness? Is there something that could change?
I challenge you to take a look at the things you're doing. Do you want to do them? How can you make them better? What can change?
- Your morning routine
- Your relationship
- Your job
- Your wardrobe
- Your friendships
- Your hobbies
- Your workout routine
- Your commute
- Your nail color
- Your diet
These are just a few of the things we do each day that could use a little "auditing". Just a few things that can be tweaked that rarely cross our minds. It's actually terrifying how quickly we fall into routine and rarely break from it. This is not to say routine isn't bad, it's just it can get in the way of progress - because we get comfortable. I challenge you to go through 3-5 of the items on that list and ask yourself if they're what you want to do (or if they're helping you get there). Life is too short. Make every second count.
I'm doing more of what I want to do and less of what I don't.